:: My first Webinar, Masha'Allah! ::

Assalam Alaikum!

hehehe~ Something interesting happened!

I was browsing through the videos in thedeenshow.com and I came upon the video on marriage. I looked through the video and I saw a website which makes me feel so much better of being single... hee~

he website is http://www.practimate.com and it's those "How-to-find-Mr-Right" kind of website. Just that it's all put in proper boundary in Islam~ I signed up for the webinar (Web Seminar) and below are some points I took down... hehehe~

Someone asked me why I'm always thinking of marriage~ hee~ Sound desperate ah... Anyway, this is for all the muslimah, not only for those looking looking, like me! Then again, I was reminded that though this topic of concern if important, still the most important comes from learning the prayers~ Shall learn eagerly now.. now now now, Insha'Allah~

W'salam,

Khadijah C.

Topic: Things A Single Muslim Man Secretly Looks For In A Wife

She is trustworthy in what she says

According to Megan Wyatt, the speaker in the webinar, Trustworthy is the first thing a muslimah should have. Being trustworthy shows that she can protect the honour of the husband. By being trustworthy means no shaming anyone behind anyone's back or even in front of their friends. No backbiting and don’t say bad, even when it is true. Speak only of the true good things as this share positive attitudes and practices among friends.

She needs him

Allah (SWT) has made the female special by making emotional and sensitive. This makes the man feels significant being the head of the household. The woman should just giving him a window to her world, to let him find his role in her world.

However, in modern times, as women are more educated than in the early generation, they are more independent since they are young. Because of the co-ed education system, Women are competing with men since young in terms of grades. Hence, this makes the women with the mentality that women is just as strong as men... Sometimes, this makes some women present themselves as a "know-it-all" kind of muslimah, over-independent on themselves that they find no need to have a companion.

Moreover, with the influences of the modern westernized culture, dating is so common that changing partners are like changing clothes. If doesn't like one, or one doesn't suit... Change it. Long goes the practice where a woman will stick to a man like superglue no matter what. And if a woman does this now, she's labelled as "Desperate"...

Having said that, Megan Wyatt recommended that woman should be be soft and emotional vulnerable, to have trust in her man and let down her guard. Then again, she mentioned that it is not for a woman to act stupid. Just make balance. The point is for the wife and husband to complete each other. Not compete with each other.

What she can offer as a wife

A muslimah should do reflection before committed to a marriage on what she can offer as a wife. Too often, they know what they want from the man but seldom they know what they can offer as a wife and mother of the man's children.

She is obedient

Obedience in the form of respecting him. Not just to do whatever he said but to know his boundary. To understand when husband put his feet down, he really really matters. Also, to allow the man to be the leader of the family and fulfill his role as a leader in his home. However, it needs to be communicated that all authority comes with responsibilities. Let him have a sense of significance in the household. Hence again, some guys are just irritating. They take advantage and start ruling over the wife, like a slave and sometimes, abusive. Therefore, there is no tranquility in the marriage.

Obedience in the form of respecting him. Not just to do whatever he said but to know his boundary. To understand when husband put his feet down, he really really matters. Also, to allow the man to be the leader of the family and fulfill his role as a leader in his home. However, it needs to be communicated that all authority comes with responsibilities. Let him have a sense of significance in the household. Hence again, some guys are just irritating. They take advantage and start ruling over the wife, like a slave and sometimes, abusive. Therefore, there is no tranquility in the marriage.