:: Peace by Forgiving ::

AssalamAlaikum,

It's me again! =) Just haven't been updating since I've been thinking much on forgiveness... Sometimes, it's just soOoo much ill feelings, like disappointment, anger, jealousy, etc... All these negative emotions are just works of Shaitan to mislead us in having a peaceful live... Personally, I have experienced all these emotions~

People who are betrayer after much has been done for them...

People who are "disappoint-or" after making promises and not fulfilling them...

People who just take advantage of your own goodness...

People who take you for granted...

And, to see others having what you has been wishing for make life more difficult...

And all these make you think if you are really silly to believe in people...

Then the emotional sins starts appearing...
(Just like those stated by the early Christians about the 7 deadly sins- Eg: Anger, Jealousy, despair)

This feeling gets soOooo much that it starts to make life negatively... Hopes are given up, there's fear in everything and life's just on the edge of the cliff... This applies to everyone, if only they think about it...

Then again, thinking of it, what's the use of all these negative feelings? It's getting nowhere but everyone feeling miserable and hurt... I mean, if things are done out of selfishness and people treat you badly, then who else to blame except oneself...

But the society is so bad that people are practically "lazy" as in not willing to take care of others welfare... or just making use of each other to get their own agenda - "Selfishness"... It's everywhere in the world... Even in schools!!! Where it should be the safest place to educate children... (Alright, I'm just helping my teacher friends to vent out anger! hahaha~)

But seriously, what is happening? Where is the sense of harmony? The sense of commitment? The care and concern for each other?

Allah (SWT) said in the Qur'an that he guides those whom he wills~ So, if we have all the qualities stated in the Qur'an that we take care of our community (Believers & disbelievers) and care for them... Yet in the end, we get heartbreaks and disappointment... Should we be the one who should be having negative feelings?

Or should they be disappointed because they are soOoo into their own selfishness that we should pity them because they are not the guided ones YET... unless they repent? Well, it would be good if they repent cause they would feel the guilt towards those they have done wrong... On the other hand, even if they don't repent, Allah (SWT) would punish them, wouldn't he? In either way, they are at the losing end... So, why contain negative feelings for "losers"... Negative feelings are just works of the Shaitan to mislead us...

Well, I agree... We are humans and we have such feelings and it's not easy to fight these feelings but thinking of it... We should work towards this "forgiveness" because it will make us better! And and... we should pity people who hurted us...

We should build our lives better so that they could see that whatever bad they had done to us, are not going to make us weak!!! On the contrary, we gotta be strong and stay firm!!! Show them that it's their lost by not having us in their lives.... Anyway, we have our greatest protector, who is the provider for everything we need! =D

Whatever ye are given (here) is (but) a convenience of this life: but that which is with Allah is better and more lasting: (it is) for those who believe and put their trust in their Lord:

Those who avoid the greater crimes and shameful deeds, and, when they are angry even then forgive;

Those who hearken to their Lord, and establish regular Prayer; who (conduct) their affairs by mutual Consultation; who spend out of what We bestow on them for Sustenance;

And those who, when an oppressive wrong is inflicted on them, (are not cowed but) help and defend themselves.

The recompense for an injury is an injury equal thereto (in degree): but if a person forgives and makes reconciliation, his reward is due from Allah. for ((Allah)) loveth not those who do wrong.

But indeed if any do help and defend themselves after a wrong (done) to them, against such there is no cause of blame.

The blame is only against those who oppress men and wrong-doing and insolently transgress beyond bounds through the land, defying right and justice: for such there will be a penalty grievous.

But indeed if any show patience and forgive, that would truly be an exercise of courageous will and resolution in the conduct of affairs.

For any whom Allah leaves astray, there is no protector thereafter. And thou wilt see the Wrong-doers, when in sight of the Penalty, Say: "Is there any way (to effect) a return?"

And thou wilt see them brought forward to the (Penalty), in a humble frame of mind because of (their) disgrace, (and) looking with a stealthy glance. And the Believers will say: "Those are indeed in loss, who have given to perdition their own selves and those belonging to them on the Day of Judgment. Behold! Truly the Wrong-doers are in a lasting Penalty!"

And no protectors have they to help them, other than Allah. And for any whom Allah leaves to stray, there is no way (to the Goal).

[Surah Ash-Shura 42:36-46]

And thus have We, by Our Command, sent inspiration to thee: thou knewest not (before) what was Revelation, and what was Faith; but We have made the (Qur'an) a Light, wherewith We guide such of Our servants as We will; and verily thou dost guide (men) to the Straight Way,-

The Way of Allah, to Whom belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on earth. Behold (how) all affairs tend towards Allah.

[Surah Ash-Shura 42:52-53]

W'salam,

Khadijah C.