Wednesday, 31 March 2010

:: Islam The Misunderstood Religion ::





:: Behaviours of muslims & spread of islam ::

Assalam Alaikum,

In this video, Sheikh Hussein Yee explains the relationship between Muslim's behaviours and the spreading of islam and how bad behaviours of some muslims make others walk away from this religion...

W'salam,
Khadijah C.


:: Difference between Islam & Muslims ::

Assalam Alaikum,

Sheikh Hussein Yee is just soOooo wonderful! =)
Islam belongs to Allah (SWT), so don't allow anyone to criticize Islam because of some muslims who are not practicing the real teaching, okay? =D

W'salam,
Khadijah C.


:: Gifts I'll truly treasure ::

Assalam Alaikum,

Being a revert isn't easy... Alhamdulliah!!! There are just kind and lovely friends who make my journey easier by giving me gifts to increase my knowledge in Islam and to allow me to pray~ Of course, these are just material gifts... 

Not forgetting my neighbours who are always available for me when I need them to teach me how to recite the Qur'an~ 

The best gift I got from all my Muslim friends are their encouragement and their duas for me~ ahHhhh... Now I feel emotional to have all these people with me~ How much blessed I am! =D

And of course, the bestest gift of all... Is the gift from Almighty Allah!!! That He chose me to be guided on the right path and have my fate written to meet these wonderful people~

May Allah (SWT) bestow them with all his bestest, gracious blessings on them!


W'salam,
Khadijah C.



Tuesday, 30 March 2010

:: Women - The majority in jahanam ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I was listening to a talk and I overheard that women are the majority in jahanam (Hell)... I decided to check it out in the Hadith from Sahih Bukhari... Oh man! Now I am scared... =(

Keep praying and making dua that I'll leave this world as a righteous muslimah~ Ameen!

2013 update: Check out :: o-women-give-alms :: to avoid such scenario~

W'salam,
Khadijah C.

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Narrated Usama: The Prophet said, "I stood at the gate of paradise and saw that the majority of the people who entered it were the poor, while the wealthy were stopped at the gate (for the accounts). But the companions of the Fire were ordered to be taken to the Fire. Then I stood at the gate of the Fire and saw that the majority of those who entered it were women."
(Book #62, Hadith #124)

Narrated Usama: The Prophet said, "I stood at the gate of paradise and saw that the majority of the people who had entered it were poor people, while the rich were forbidden (to enter along with the poor, because they were waiting the reckoning of their accounts), but the people of the Fire had been ordered to be driven to the Fire. And I stood at the gate of the Fire and found that the majority of the people entering it were women."
(Book #76, Hadith #555)

Narrated Imran: The Prophet said, "I looked at paradise and saw that the majority of its residents were the poor; and I looked at the (Hell) Fire and saw that the majority of its residents were women."
(Book #62, Hadith #126)

Narrated 'Imran bin Husain: The Prophet said, "I looked into paradise and found that the majority of its dwellers were the poor people, and I looked into the (Hell) Fire and found that the majority of its dwellers were women."
(Book #76, Hadith #456)

Narrated 'Imran: The Prophet said, "I looked into paradise and saw that the majority of its people were the poor, and I looked into the Fire and found that the majority of its people were women." 
(Book #76, Hadith#554)

Narrated 'Abdullah bin Abbas: The sun eclipsed in the life-time of the Prophet (p.b.u.h) . Allah's Apostle offered the eclipse prayer and stood for a long period equal to the period in which one could recite Surat-al-Baqara. Then he bowed for a long time and then stood up for a long period which was shorter than that of the first standing, then bowed again for a long time but for a shorter period than the first; then he prostrated twice and then stood up for a long period which was shorter than that of the first standing; then he bowed for a long time which was shorter than the previous one, and then he raised his head and stood up for a long period which was shorter than the first standing, then he bowed for a long time which was shorter than the first bowing, and then prostrated (twice) and finished the prayer. By then, the sun (eclipse) had cleared. The Prophet then said, "The sun and the moon are two of the signs of Allah. They eclipse neither because of the death of somebody nor because of his life (i.e. birth). So when you see them, remember Allah." The people say, "O Allah's Apostle! We saw you taking something from your place and then we saw you retreating."

The Prophet replied, "I saw paradise and stretched my hands towards a bunch (of its fruits) and had I taken it, you would have eaten from it as long as the world remains. I also saw the Hell-fire and I had never seen such a horrible sight. I saw that most of the inhabitants were women." The people asked, "O Allah's Apostle! Why is it so?" The Prophet replied, "Because of their ungratefulness." It was asked whether they are ungrateful to Allah. The Prophet said, "They are ungrateful to their companions of life (husbands) and ungrateful to good deeds. If you are benevolent to one of them throughout the life and if she sees anything (undesirable) in you, she will say, 'I have never had any good from you.' "
(Book #18, Hadith #161)
(Book #62, Hadith #125)

:: Culture/race vs. Islam ::

Assalam Alaikum,

This is an informative video for reverts, like me, to know about the difference between culture/race and religion~ Especially in a multi-cultural country which I am living in and, how often, Islam is just somehow connected to Malay... 

No offences, but it's just something hard for reverts like me to explain to my family and friends that I am embracing Islam, not changing my race from being a Chinese to Malay~ I want to be Chinese Muslim... That's all, nothing got to do with being Malay~

Anyway, in this video, Sheikh Yasir Qahdi talked about the differentiation between culture and Islam and how he gave suggestions to differentiate them...

In summary, being Muslim, we submit ourselves to Allah(SWT) and we follow the best example of mankind, Prophet Muhammad~ Anything other then those written in the Qur'an or in the Sunnah are opposed, even though the intention might be good~ Allah(SWT) mentioned in the Qur'an...






See you not (O men) that Allah has subjected for you whatsoever is in the heavens and whatsoever is in the earth, and has completed and perfected His Graces upon you, (both) apparent (i.e. Islamic Monotheism, and the lawful pleasures of this world, including health, good looks, etc.) and hidden [i.e. One's Faith in Allah (of Islamic Monotheism) knowledge, wisdom, guidance for doing righteous deeds, and also the pleasures and delights of the Hereafter in Paradise]? Yet of mankind is he who disputes about Allah without knowledge or guidance or a Book giving light! 
(  سورة لقمان  , Luqman, Chapter #31, Verse #20)

Say: "With Allah is the perfect proof and argument, (i.e. the Oneness of Allah, the sending of His Messengers and His Holy Books to mankind); had He so willed, He would indeed have guided you all."
(  سورة الأنعام  , Al-Anaam, Chapter #6, Verse #149)

This is a very good video to make people reflect on their way of worshipping Allah(SWT)... Often, many born Muslim follow what their previous generations do... Well, now that we are more educated and information is so much easily available, there is not excuse for us Muslim, to seek the correct way of performing actions in Islam~

Cultures/races are good really as it brings varieties to mankind... But when it clashes with Islam, it became a problem~

Enjoy the show and take note when Sheikh Yasir Qahdi talked about the well of water which will be available to the believers on the day of judgement~ =D 


W'salam,
Khadijah C.


Monday, 29 March 2010

:: Islamic Golden Age ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I guess many of us do not know about the Islamic Golden Age... Much of the inventions claimed by famous people, like the wright brothers, were actually carried out many many many years ago by the Muslims!

Watch this and it'll give you some insights~ =) 

Insha'Allah, one day I shall go London to see this exhibition~ For those who can't make it, this is the official website of the exhibition~ http://www.1001inventions.com Have fun discovering the works of our previous great generations!

W'salam,
Khadijah C.


Friday, 26 March 2010

:: Wonder kids-Ghufran Pathan ::

Assalam Alaikum,

Kids are just wonder if they are properly educated!
It's never too young to do anything! With proper training, children can achieve their potential!

Amazing boy!!! As you can guess, his favourite speaker is Dr. Zakir Naik! soOoo much like him!!! =D

W'salam,
Khadijah C.




:: Who we are ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I just saw this program in Peace TV and it's lovely for children! =D And new reverts who are kiddish like me! And and Zain Bhikha is leading the children to sing!!! CooOoooll... hehehehe~

This episode talks about the different people around the world and how they embraces Islam as their deen... Very interesting!!! =)

W'salam,
Khadijah C.


:: Boy's emotional narration ::

Assalam Alaikum,

Just saw this online and I was wow... Masha'Allah, what an amazing boy, narrating the events!!! Not sure if the events were true but surely, the boy has done a lot of preparation! Hope he will use his talent well when he grows up, Insha'Allah~

W'salam,
Khadijah C.


:: Nothing's easy without His Grace ::


Assalam Alaikum,

I'm excited to show what I have gotten from my Hull trip!!! =D
These are some of the materials in the prayer room~ Well, as usual, they are free! hee~

I like the poster the most, as it will give me constant reminder that things will be easy, only with Allah (SWT) grace and blessings~ And the brief illustrated guide can be my Dawah tool, starting from my family first... And and!!! Not forgetting BaBa Ali!!! The one who turns serious issues into funny ones!

Oh, a copy of that  embox magazine could be downloaded from here... 

There are a lot more literature materials but most of them are in arabic~ Insha'Allah, one day I can be able to understand them!


W'salam,
Khadijah C.

Thursday, 25 March 2010

:: Last Moments of Prophet Muhammad ::

Assalam Alaikum,

This is a very emotional narrations~

It feels even more painful to see how people behave nowadays, especially after what Prophet Muhammad had fight to bring guidance to mankind~

I have no power to change the mindset of people now, but I know, it starts from me to give my next generation a good foundation in their Deen~ I shall work hard and strive hard for the cause of my purpose in life, Insha'Allah~

W'salam,
Khadijah C.



:: L.O.V.E ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I was read this forum post on What Is Love?

It talks about romantic love, unconditional love and spiritual love in marriage~ I'm sure it's difficult to categorise which love it is when one is so much into their feelings~

Alright, I know I'm not qualified to talk about this topic since I am not married... Then again, Allah (SWT) is gracious to me to give me eyes to see, ears to listen and personal experiences to reflect upon...

I always wonder why there are soOooo many divorce cases on the rise... I think, in my personal opinion that an average person wishes for romantic love, more than the latter two... Well, it's that feeling of being appreciated and taken care of from a physical human being~ Maybe also because of how media portray love in a relationship... 

hmMmmm~ And also, maybe because of people wants the easy way out~ I guess it's easier to leave than to do amendments... It's like, when I write on a piece of paper and I made a mistake... It is easier for me to use another clean sheet of paper to start again, than to erase the mistake and rewrite them, making it messy~

It just feel sad to see broken families because one party is not willing to work for a blissful marriage~ There's always give and take in a relationship~ Alhamdulliah!!! My parents have set great examples for me! They have shown me even if life was tough, but it was the bonding they shared which enable them to enjoy what they have in later part of their lives~

We always want a perfect life... But how many of us really have a perfect life? There's always ups and downs in life... That's what told by Allah (SWT) too! That He'll give us tests after tests... Then again, He's merciful to us... He gives us spouse to keep us strong when we are weak, to keep us on the right path when we tend to wander off?

This has always been my thinking but somehow, it got abused~ Well, I just shall not dwell into the past for they are just lessons for me to learn from! =D

Oh yes, this post also talks about unconditional love and spiritual love~

Unconditional love, according to the counsellor, encompasses mutual trust, tenderness, acceptance, open communication,  caring, apologies, forgiveness, appropriate boundaries and friendship... hmMmm...Unconditional love means you always look into the positive side of that person and try to accommodate their interests and hobbies~ Right? =) It sounds easy but soOooo difficult to carry out!

Also, unconditional love means acting in the well-being of the person, even if means letting go of being taken care of on reasonable grounds~ This is what a lot of revert sisters need when they embraces Islam and have to leave when marriage is not possible in the relationship~ Another kind of love which revert sisters have are spiritual love...

Spiritual love... Loving for the sake of Allah (SWT)... What else can I say about this? It's Him that we'll return to one day~ It's Him who is the sole provider for all mankind~ What else better to do than to love someone for the love of Allah (SWT) creation? That Allah (SWT) brings both people together to form a bond, out of the billions people out there~

hmMmm... Do I sound like I'm a married woman? hahahaha~ I told you, I reflect on my past experiences before being a muslim~ =P

To end off, I would like to give an example for each kind of love in the setting of the husband likes to watch movies, while the wife loves shopping! 

In the scenario of romantic love, the couple will do things together, no matter how unwilling one is~ Well, that's why we often hear couples quarrelling over this as they accommodate each other's interests TOO MUCH that they lose their cool...

In unconditional love, the husband will watch movie himself and the wife can go shopping! Then meet up after 2hrs or so to talk about what both have just done over lunch or dinner! =D Isn't it good? Well, at least it solve the building up of over-accommodation~

In spiritual love, both will go to the masjid instead of movies or shopping! hehehehe~ Just kidding! =P Seriously, I think the fact that a couple stays happy together, it's already a form of spiritual love!!

A precious gift from Allah (SWT)... soOooo precious and cherished... =D


W'salam,
Khadijah C.

Monday, 22 March 2010

:: Pizza in Spring ::

Assalam Alaikum,


Spring time is for pizza! hehehe~ =) Just had pizza with my neighbour! Looks good eh? =D


Praise Allah (SWT) for giving us yummy food! Yay!!!


W'salam,
Khadijah C.

:: Malay Vs Muslim ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I saw this message from an ex-colleague of mine and I feel like I need to vent the frustration out from me! urghHhhh!!!

"Sigh... I just saw a young couple... Early 30s, with a 4 or 5 year old son, still awake at this hour, at a coffeeshop hanging out with their friends... Mummy's smoking n daddy jst came, brought a bottle of hard liqour... Oh, forgot to mention, young muslim couple..."

Why did she need to mention they are muslim couple??!!

I mean there's difference between religion and race.... Being Malay doesn't mean you are a muslim right? Like one can be a Malay but a disbeliever, right?

If they are real muslim, they won't do such things, right?

Narrated abu Huraira: the Prophet said, "When an adulterer commits illegal sexual intercourse, then he isnot a believer at the time, he is doing it, and when a drinker of an alcoholic liquor drinks it, then he isnot a believer at the time of drinking it, and when a thief steals, then he is not a believer at the time ofstealing, and when a robber robs, and the people look at him, then he is not a believer at the time of doing robbery.
(Book #43, Hadith #655)

Narrated abu Huraira: the Prophet said, "the one who commits an illegal sexual intercourse is not abeliever at the time of committing illegal sexual intercourse and a thief is not a believer at the time ofcommitting theft and a drinker of alcoholic drink is not a believer at the time of drinking. Yet, (the gateof) repentance is open thereafter."
(Book #82, Hadith #801)

Sometimes, I just feel that people don't really know what they are talking about, even at the expense of tarnishing the good image of Islam, without knowing that they had done so~

ughHhhhh~ Why did she do that? I think I am supersensitive to culture/race and religion issues~

I prayed that people would be careful of what they are saying~

W'salam,
Khadijah C.

Sunday, 21 March 2010

:: Travel through the earth ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I watched this program, "Quest for the Lost Civilisation" in YouTube... http://www.youtube.com/show/questforthelostcivilisation

It talks about the lost civilisations in areas of Egypt, Cambodia, Japan, Angkor Wat, the famous Incas and some other places~ It's amazing how the archaeologists research on the alightment of the various architectures in the famous civilisations~

I was thinking how amazing people were previously~ How they are about to build such big infrastructures and on top of it, they were built to align to the constellation in the universe in 10500BC~ Different civilisations at different timing, building their temples, pyramids according to the constellation in 10500BC... How did they ever do it without computers? Wow... Amazing~

And, internet just makes it easy for us to "travel through the earth" to see what early civilisations had done~ If only people reflect on what Qur'an says...

W'salam,
Khadijah C.

Have they not travelled through the land, and have they hearts wherewith to understand and ears wherewith to hear? Verily, it is not the eyes that grow blind, but it is the hearts which are in the breasts that grow blind.
( سورة الحج , Al-Hajj, Chapter #22, Verse #46)

Have they not travelled through the earth and seen what was the end of those before them? They were more in number than them and mightier in strength, and in the traces (they have left behind them) in the land; yet all that they used to earn availed them not.
( سورة غافر , Ghafir, Chapter #40, Verse #82)

Have they not travelled through the earth, and seen what was the end of those before them? Allah destroyed them completely, and a similar (fate awaits) the disbelievers.
( سورة محمد , Muhammad, Chapter #47, Verse #10)

:: Springing into Spring ::

Assalam Alaikum,

It has been a rainy spring so far~ But everytime it rains, I smiled at the thought of seeing flowers blooming the next day! =D

These are some of the "early" bloomers in Spring~ And ladybird!!! I saw several on the pathway while on the way back from university~ They are soOooo small that if my friend did not take notice, we would have stepped on them!

Oh well, we are not given the ability of Prophet Sulaiman, so we just gotta be careful with our steps, just in case we stepped on poor insects which are working hard to survive!

Till, when they came to the valley of the ants, one of the ants said: "O ants! Enter your dwellings, lest Sulaiman (Solomon) and his hosts should crush you, while they perceive not."
(  سورة النمل  , An-Naml, Chapter #27, Verse #18)

Works of Allah (SWT) in nature is soOooo amazing! I keep telling myself that something which is not visible to our eyes, doesn't mean it is not happening~ We human can do our best to plant seeds, but eventually, it depends on Allah (SWT) to let us sow our havest~ 

I have sow my seeds, just gotta be patience and leave the rest to HIM... =D Hopefully I'll get my garden of flowers soon! Yay!!! =D

W'salam,
Khadijah C.

Saturday, 20 March 2010

:: Story of our lives ::



Say: If your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your wives, your kindred, the wealth that you have gained, the commerce in which you fear a decline, and the dwellings in which you delight are dearer to you than Allah and His Messenger, and striving hard and fighting in His Cause, then wait until Allah brings about His Decision (torment). And Allah guides not the people who are Al-Fasiqun (the rebellious, disobedient to Allah). 
(  سورة التوبة  , At-Taubah, Chapter #9, Verse #24)

Friday, 19 March 2010

:: "Happy Birthday" ::

Assalam Alaikum,

It's my friend's birthday today! 20th March... Should I say Happy Birthday? hmMmmm... Now, being a revert, I am always careful about what I have to say...

I decided to check it out~

The prominent Muslim scholar, Sheikh Tajuddin Hamid Al-Hilali, Mufti of Australia and New Zealand, states:

"A Muslim has a distinguished personality. He should not imitate others in evil things and leave the good ones. Talking to our children about their birthdays, we should remind them that on such days they should remember the blessings of Allah and praise Him for giving them life and guidance. It would be better if we ask them to offer something in charity as a form of showing gratitude."


"Islam supports the celebration of birthdays if it is an expression of gratitude to Allah for His bounties, sustenance and blessings in man’s life, as long as that celebration does not include anything that may displease Allah, the Almighty."

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/Satellite?pagename=IslamOnline-English-Ask_Scholar/FatwaE/FatwaE&cid=1119503547996

I used to think about this concept of birthday~ Why do we celebrate? Oh well, when I was young, I celebrated it as it is an important day of my life! Come on, I'm a year older and it's the time of the year getting presents~ But as I grow to be wiser, I think about what birthday is really about!

How many of us celebrate for our mothers on that day? Well, it's her hardship to give birth to us, we didn't do anything much except to irritate the surroundings with our LOUD cries! hahahaha~ I remembered, there was one birthday of mine... I decided to do something special... I did a card for my mum on my birthday! To thank her to giving birth to me~ hee~ Sweet right? =)

My mum still keeps it in her drawer~ Though my parents are not very well in expressing their feelings to their children, somehow, they appreciate what we children did for them (even if they say the opposite!) hehehe~

Oh well, now that I know who is my creator... It's just logical to thank HIM on anyone's birthday~ That He send families and friends to this world to give us hope, joy, happiness and helping us to grow~ All with the knowledge and wisdom given by Allah (SWT) alone~

So, to this friend of mine if you happen to see this...

"May you enjoy your special day as Allah (SWT) has given the world a charming and wise person to make the place a beautiful & hopeful one!"

W'salam,
Khadijah C.

:: The Prophet Muhammad's Last Sermon ::


:: Asma Allah ::

Assalam Alaikum,

I like this video!! Not because of Sami Yusuf... hehehe~ But because how it showed different people of different cultures together! yoOoohoOoo!!! If only everyone can sing in unison in reality!

Allahu Akbar!!! He knows best for us~ =)

W'salam,
Khadijah C.



:: Power Of Saitan ::


:: The Rights of Children in Islam ::

The Rights of Children in Islam
By Sheikh Al-Uthaymeen
Taken from http://www.missionislam.com/family/childrensrights.htm


Let us first establish that children in accordance with the Islamic concept means both male and female. Some Islamic opponents accuse Islam of differentiating between male and female children claiming that Islam prefers boys over girls in terms of inheritance, 'Aqeeqa (slaughter of two lambs upon the birth of a male baby, and one lamb only for a baby girl) and other matters.

In accordance with the true Islamic teaching, both male and female are alike in the sight of Allah, the Almighty. Each, however, is physically prepared and equipped to perform certain tasks and duties that are suitable to his/her nature. All, again are equal in religious duties, except for certain exceptions that are defined and illustrated by Allah, the Almighty, in the Glorious Quran, or declared and specified by Allah’s Apostle, PBUH. Only these differences are to be acknowledged and honored and only in accordance with Islam and its teachings.

Children, according to Islam, are entitled to various rights. The first and foremost of these rights is the right to be properly brought up, raised and educated. This means that children should be given suitable, sufficient, sound and adequate religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire lives. They should be engraved with true values, the meaning of right and wrong, true and false, correct and incorrect, appropriate and inappropriate and so forth and so on. Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Qur’an:

Allah’s Apostle, PBUH also said: "Every one of you (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them." This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim.

O you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and Stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded.
( سورة التحريم , At-Tahrim, Chapter #66, Verse #6)

Children, therefore are a trust given to the parents. Parents will be responsible for this trust on the Day of Judgement. Parents are essentially responsible for the moral, ethical and the basic and essential religious teachings of their children.

If parents fulfill this responsibility, they will be free of the consequences on the Day of Judgement. The children will become better citizens and a pleasure to the eyes of their parents, first in this life, and in the hereafter.

Allah, the Almighty stated in the Glorious Quran:


"And those who believe and whose families follow them in Faith, to them shall We join their families: Nor shall We deprive them (of the fruit) of aught of their works: (Yet) is each individual in pledge for his deeds."
( سورة الطور , At-tur, Chapter #52, Verse #21)

Moreover, Allah's Apostle, PBUH said: "Upon death, man's deeds will (definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill; knowledge left for people to benefit from; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously prays Allah, the Almighty, for the soul of his parents." This Hadith is reported by Muslim.

In fact, such a statement reflects the value of the proper upbringing of children. It has an everlasting effect, even after death.

Unfortunately, many parents from every walk of life, in every society, regardless of creed, origin, social and economical status, etc., have neglected this very important imposed right of their own children on them. Such individuals have indeed lost their children as a result of their own negligence. Such parents are so careless about the time their children spend with no benefit, the friends they associate with, the places they go to, etc. Such parents do not care, are totally indifferent about where their children go, when they come back and so forth and so on, causing the children to grow up without any responsible adult and without caring supervision. Such parents neglect even to instruct, direct or guide their children to the proper way of life, behaviour or even right attitudes towards others.

Yet, you may find these parents are so careful about guarding their wealth. They are extremely concerned about their businesses, work and otherwise. They exert every possible effort to lead a very successful life in terms of materialistic gains, although all this wealth is not actually theirs. No one will take wealth to the grave.

Children are not only to be well-fed, well-groomed, properly dressed for the weather and for appearance, well-taken care of in terms of housing and utilities. It is more important to offer the child comparable care in terms of educational, religious training, and spiritual guidance. The heart of a child must be filled with faith. A child’s mind must be entertained with proper guidance, knowledge and wisdom. Clothes, food, housing, schooling are not, by any means, an indication of proper care of the child. Proper education and guidance is far more important to a child than this food, grooming and appearance.

One of the due rights of children upon their parents is their spending for their welfare and well-being moderately. Over-spending or negligence is not condoned, accepted or even tolerated in Islam. Such ways will have a negative effect on the child regardless of the social status. Men are urged not to be miserly to their children and households, who are their natural heirs in every religion and society. Why would one be miserly to those who are going to inherit his wealth?

Children are entitled to such an important right. They are even permitted to take moderately from their parent's wealth to sustain themselves if the parent declines to give them proper funds for their living.

Children also have the right to be treated equally in terms of financial gifts. No one should be preferred over the others. All must be treated fairly and equally. None should be deprived his gift from the parents. Depriving, or banning the right of inheritance, or other financial gifts during the lifetime of the parents or the preference of a parent for one child over the other is considered according to Islam as an act of injustice.

Injustice will definitely lead to an atmosphere of hatred, anger and dismay amongst the children in a household. In fact, such an act of injustice may, most likely, lead to animosity amongst the children, and consequently, this will affect the entire family environment. In certain cases a special child may show a tender care for his aging parent, for instance, causing the parent to grant such a child a special gift, or issue him the ownership of a house, a factory, a land, a farm, a car, or any other valuable items.

Islam, however considers such a financial reward to such a caring, loving and perhaps obedient child, a wrong act. A caring child is entitled only to a reward from Allah, the Almighty. Although it is nice to grant such a child something in appreciation for his dedication and special efforts, this must not lead to an act of disobedience to Allah, the Almighty. It may be that the heart and feelings of such a loving and caring child may change, at one point in time, causing him to become a nasty and harmful child. By the same token, a nasty child may change, at any given time, as well, to become a very caring and kind child to the same parent.

The hearts and feelings are, as we all know, in the hands of Allah, the Almighty, and can be turned in any direction at any given time and without any previous notice. This, indeed, is one of the reasons for preventing the act of financial preference of a child over another. On the other hand, there is also no assurance or guarantee that a caring child can handle the financial gift of his parent wisely.

It is narrated by Abu Bakr, RAA, who said that Allah's Apostle, PBUH, was approached by one of his companions, al-N'uman bin Basheer, who said: "O Prophet of Allah! I have granted a servant to one of my children (asking him to testify to that gift)." But Allah's PBUH asked him: "Did you grant the same to each and every child of yours?" When Allah's Apostle, PBUH was informed negatively about that, he said: "Fear Allah, the Almighty, and be fair and just to all your children. Seek the testimony of another person, other than me. I will not testify to an act of injustice." This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim. Thus, Allah's Apostle, PBUH called such an act of preference of one child over the others an act of "injustice." Injustice is prohibited and forbidden in Islam.

But, if a parent granted one of his children financial help to fulfill a necessity, such as a medical treatment coverage, the cost of a marriage, the cost of initializing a business, etc., then such a grant would not be categorized an act of injustice and unfairness. Such a gift will fall under the right to spend in the essential needs of the children, which is a requirement that a parent must fulfill.

Islam sees that if parents fulfill their duties towards all their children in terms of providing them with necessary training, educational backing, moral, ethical and religious education, this will definitely lead to a more caring child, a better family atmosphere and a better social environment and awareness. On the other hand, any negligence in those parental duties can lead to the loss of a child or ill treatment of the parents at a later age.

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